Are excuses stopping you in your tracks?

It’s time to learn how to stop making excuses. A lack of confidence can lead you to make excuses for simple tasks and really important goals. Let’s face it when we make excuses and blame others , we hold ourselves back.

We all have an armoury of excuses that we automatically come out with - you know them -

🙋🏻‍♀️I'm too... Old/fat/young/tall

🙋🏻‍♀️I don't have the support/network

🙋🏻‍♀️I'm not rich enough/I have no money

🙋🏻‍♀️I don't have the time

🙋🏻‍♀️My family/partner/parents won't like it

🙋🏻‍♀️I don't want to fail

🙋🏻‍♀️I have no motivation

🙋🏻‍♀️I don't know what I want

🙋🏻‍♀️I'm not ready/I'll do it tomorrow

🙋🏻‍♀️I'll do it when...the kids leave home/I pay off my debt/I lose some weight

Let me know how many of these you use? Or what excuses you use?

I'm here to tell you that they are all just EXCUSES and they have no room in your life.

When we fall on these excuse swords we give away our confidence, our power and any motivation you may have to reach your potential.

You are never too old/fat/tall/broke/alone/time poor/anxious/stuck to say yes to implementing change for the better in your life.

So, how do you stop using these words that are stopping you from reaching your potential -

1. Start making choices and not excuses - Sounds easy but if you think of everything as a choice as opposed to trying to find ways to get out of things, you take full responsibility and stop blaming things like your age, the weather, the time etc.;

2. Stop blaming others and circumstances- The blame game is all part of excuse making - 'They won't let me/But the kids want this/I have no money/the weather is bad/I hate getting the bus - grow up and start taking responsibility;

3. Ask yourself a question - When something comes up or when you recognise an excuse ask yourself 'How badly do I want to do this? What could stop me doing it? Am I interested in it? This them allows the choice to come in. If the answer is no I don't want to, Its not my thing and I'm not interested' the decline and say what you have just said to yourself. Being honest will liberate you!;

4. Take action - Over the next week do two things that you have been putting off and making excuses for, These things have to be on your 'choose to' list not just something someone else wants you to do. When you take action, this will show you that you can take on your excuse and win!;

5. Focus on the positive 'What if's' - Fear can stop anyone in their tracks. Instead of being negative about the 'What if's' imagine what could happen if you gave something a red hot go? What benefits you could reap or others could get from your taking on the task;

6. Ditch the self doubt - It’s too easy to not attempt something because you see all the ways you’re not good enough or not upto the challenge. Don’t focus on what you can’t do. Instead, focus on your talents and abilities. What can you do?;

7. Break it down - If overwhelm is stopping you from saying yes or self doubt creeps in then break down your tasks and say 'I'll do this today' then add another task tomorrow. Over time these add up and before you know it you will have achieved your goal!;

8. Just say 'No' - Sometimes the task, challenge, activity that has come your way just isn't you and that's ok. Go back to number 2 and if it doesn't float your boat or you have no interest say 'NO'.

I get that some excuses like 'I'm too old' are facts you are a certain age, this still doesn't make it a valid excuse. Look at people who have climbed, started businesses, had kids, invented something, swam with sharks - some of these people have been older than you I promise. If you want something that bad, if you really want it you will ditch the excuses and do something about it.

I've had clients come to me and say 'but I want to have more time for themselves but I can't find it ' I ask them to write down what they do every day for a week. Hour by hour. They often look at me in a bewildered fashion. It's a tough ask. When they do the work they literally have an audit of their time and guess what... they spend time running errands they could do online, they make 5 different meals every dinner time, they watch 4 hours of TV after 8pm most nights... I have just blown their excuse out of the water. I tell them they obviously don't want that time to themselves enough ....

If you don't want it that bad, then don't do it BUT if you are reading this because you want to achieve things and be a success in your own mind then ditch the excuses and start taking responsibility.

I'm here to help.

So who is Dawn this Female Identity Coach ?

It's me and I run Innerself Coaching and love helping women who have lost sight of who they are, what they want and are ready to build their confidence and commit to finding out what their identity is.

My clients come to me for many reasons - lacking motivation, stuck and don't know where to start to be happy in their home or work life, sick of pleasing others and putting themselves last - together we work to build better boundaries, live to their strengths, build ways to ditch the excuses and focus on finding out what they DO want not just what they Don't want.

If this sounds like you then we can connect in many ways -

💥 Join my FB Group - The Female Identity Project;

💥 Join me in my next 6 week program SHINE;

💥 Book a Free Identity Breakthrough call with me;

💥 Work with me One on One as a private client over 4 weeks, 3 or 6 months. Check out the options here.